Dear Bunmi,
I am a contented family man with a loving wife and two children.
About six months ago, a single mother of two moved into the flat next door and her kids became friendly with mine.
Naturally, we invited her to our flat and became good neighbours. There was an evening she invited us for a get-together but my wife couldn’t make it.
I went alone and when she needed more drinks, I gave her some from the fridge at home.
One thing led to another and we ended up making love.
Dear Bunmi, we’d been having a sizzling relationship since then, only for her to bring in one or two lovers to her flat.
This has driven me around the bend, but she told me point blank that I should take it or leave it. She said she wanted nothing from me but sex, since I was already married.
I love my wife, of course, but my lover is hotter than my wife in bed and I get burnt up with jealousy when I see these other men with her.
Patrick, by e-mail.
Dear Patrick,
The earlier you cut loose from this woman, the easier it would be for your marriage.
She admitted she’s using you for love-making, which is exactly what you’re using her for. What else do you have to offer her?
I would forget her if I were you. Women like her are nothing but trouble.
Just think of the mess you’ll find yourself in if your wife should find out.
(Vanguard)
